Thursday, May 1, 2014

13 facts that sometimes separate me from my friends good and bad

1- I m not a cleaning freak..I love to go to pristine houses , mine is not one , used to be years ago- but is way on the back burner now with pets, age and illness..I remember taking most of a Saturday to have a gorgeous home- not anymore ..My friends have cleaning help I cannot afford.

2- I forgive all the way ..It may take awhile but I will always get there. I have no energy to waste on being angry at someone or some situation..I have too much living to do ..

3-I have shed myself of toxic people , it took me nearly 5 decades not to wallow in hurt and self pity but I am really good at deferring and insulating now !!and so much better for it .

4- I'd rather be with pets and plants than most people ..You know the reason why - no talking back , no disapproval just unconditional love and  appreciate my care.

5- My gifts are generally homemade or gifts of the heart. Sometimes not the shiny bauble someone wants. I gave a very wealthy friend of mine for her birthday . The card saying our friendship has lasted Yesterday Today and Tomorrow - name of plant cutting I gave her and pictured here.(she was not that impressed)

6- I treat family lovingly always , but shun interference. They know my trail of hardship and  good times .I do not want to hear from them , commentary etc. I am the  one in charge of my life's choices.

7- I love the unloveable to a point. My friends cannot understand how or why I go to the ends of the earth for  the needy ,I just do empathize and have been there at times .If I see people in deep trouble , I will advocate for them ..

8-I am too lonely at times. though I love being alone, too much is  deflating and always need to go out and see people

9- I will pick nature over extravagant trips and recreations- hands down- walks in park, hiking , beach , mountains  do not need a dime.

10-I regret nothing. I hear my friends say regret this that ..not me  I see it as learning.

11-I will think the kind , good thing first . Constantly I will be in conversations with friends, relatives and I hear them think the negative right out front. My mother is like that .. My sister and I are not. We always think the good first.and second and maybe third.

12- I try to help wherever I can that does not involve money . My friends  many cannot get involved. They would not take in a stray dog or person , or donate -- not me I am enriched by it .

13-I love very deeply  as do many of my  life walkers. I remembered the sudden death of someone 45 years ago this week and it felt like yesterday ..I was so happy to have shared my earthly home with him if only too short a time .

    Yesterday , Today and Tomorrow - tri colored blooming plant 
This may be one of the most beautiful group of plants grown in Florida landscapes, although many people are not aware of them (Fig. 1). They grow to about 8 or 10 feet tall and are most known for their beautiful flower display. Flowers range from white to lavender. B. pauciflora and B. australis flowers emerge lavender or purple and fade to white during the next day or two. B. australis may be the best one adapted to a partially shaded location. Other species have purple flowers with white centers. In south Florida, plants fill with flowers during the warm months of the year. Flowering is restricted to the summer and fall in the northern part of its range.

7 comments:

  1. Much to admire here. Seems like you've figured out a lot. We share a few but I'm not as empathetic as you.

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  2. I've never been good at cleaning. Even before I married into a hoarding family, I kept too much junk around myself, and junk is very bad for cleaning.

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  3. I am not cleaning as much as I used to. Illness does tend to put that on the backburner, I agree. It becomes less important.

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  4. This is a good way to live your life :)
    My neighbor's house is so clean I'm frightened to enter sometimes. We pick up stuff but sometimes the vaccuming and dusting get left.

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  5. It can be difficult to let go of a toxic friendship, but in doing so, one can literally feel the stress lifting from one's shoulders. Also, while my apartment may not be pristine, it is clean -- I cannot abide overflowing trash and clutter, and recent studies have linked excessive clutter to increased stress. My T13

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  6. Great list!!
    I also regret nothing.

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