Friday, May 31, 2013

a busy Friday but first let me attack the killer tomoato !!



Things I adore -people keeping in contact though difficult

Serenity come be my love

I am courting Serenity. Since I lost my job my mind is racing and I'm unproductive.

  If only a A peaceful mood would  steal over  me, leaving me to address my usual outer-world concerns from a new vantage point.

 You   too.may find that fixing your attention on a single matter becomes far more challenging, perhaps prohibitively so. This can be a wonderful time to take a personal day as your serenity will likely seem more appropriate in the quiet environment of your personal space. Alone with your thoughts and feelings, you can nurture your low-key mood through meditative activities such as journaling or listening to soothing music. If you cannot put aside your obligations today, be assured that your tranquility will wait for your attention.

We can intensify the level of serenity we already feel by spending time alone because it is only when we are in solitude that we are not affected by the outer-world distractions that might otherwise occupy our attentions. Sustaining inner peace is often a matter of withdrawing into the self to concentrate on matters that are important to us as individuals. Whether we occupy a literal sanctuary or must content ourselves with the sanctuary of the mind, we cultivate the ability to slip easily into a place of tranquility when we attune ourselves to such feelings. Isolation empowers us to explore the very depths of our souls so that we may better understand how we attained such a peaceful state and how we may attain it again in the future. Your low-key mood will become increasingly tranquil today as you immerse yourself in your innermost thoughts

The problem is to breathe deeply and stop my catapulting mind flow.

I am extremely grateful for making a deadline

Thursday, May 30, 2013

Thursday 13 Thirteen things to give up to be ultimately happy

At the venerable age I've attained I have to agree with these !!


1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. Give up your need for control. 
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” 
Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.Working hard on this ..
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.”
 Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

Things I Adore

My friend had an horrific accident 2 months ago with significant brain injury . He is improving greatly

I am grateful for progress on 3 little projects to be done by tomorrow

Mailing  big and little and a customer service issue  cleaning in between

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

This is Cindy

She has been gone so long.We met when I offered her services for state for her son. She was disabled in life no knee or elbow joints . She died very young and a horrible death . Her body rotted away. I loved her, never a cross word so many laughs and I miss her today like it was 13 years ago. Her final slurred words were I love you.

Things I adore

areas cleaned  so much to do

I am grateful for peace of mind found an important reciept 3 other jobs coming along

Tuesday, May 21, 2013


I have a good friend Leslie who keeps me from thinking in places I should not be ,,She makes me switch gears and go to a positive place/

Overcoming self-sabotage is one of the most exciting conversations you will ever have, because on the other side of it is the emotional freedom and depth of joy that you were born to have. And the process of breaking through denial, facing your fear, anger, and other difficult emotions, and making peace with your pain is going to lead - step by step - to an ending of the internal war with yourself so that you can step fully into the greatest expression of yourself. So let's begin...

Do you make a little progress toward your goals and objectives, only to backslide again into old, non-serving behaviors? Are you perplexed by how frequently you get off track and wonder, out of sheer exasperation, why? If you are not moving steadily in the direction of what you say you want, you can be certain that you are sabotaging yourself somewhere.

Whatever form it takes – whether unhealthy behaviors or limiting thought patterns – self-sabotage always diminishes the passion and energy we need to fulfill our dreams. Self-sabotage is the outer manifestation of our inner feelings of shame, anger and unworthiness. At the heart of the matter, we only create as much love, fulfillment, success and joy as we feel worthy of having.
Overcoming self-sabotage is one of the most exciting conversations you will ever have, because on the other side of it is the emotional freedom and depth of joy that you were born to have. And the process of breaking through denial, facing your fear, anger, and other difficult emotions, and making peace with your pain is going to lead - step by step - to an ending of the internal war with yourself so that you can step fully into the greatest expression of yourself. So let's begin...


To make radical progress toward that which you want, it is essential to identify how your inner saboteur is operating in your life. Choose one area where you can see that you’re sabotaging yourself. Perhaps it’s your finances, or maybe it’s in the area of your health or relationships. Ask yourself, “What do I get out of not thriving in this area?” (We are always getting something out of it). Propelled by negative beliefs about yourself, you may discover that you don’t expect to succeed in this area. So ultimately, you get to be right about yourself! And most of us will do anything to prove that we are right—even if it means robbing ourselves of our dreams.

However, today can be a demarcation. How will you begin to stop self-sabotage in its tracks? The action steps below will give you a starting point.

Take Action Now!
Make a list of five specific things you are doing to sabotage yourself.

Allow yourself to be ruthlessly honest. As you do this exercise, keep in mind that to have the best year of your life you will have to do the opposite of what you have been doing. This self-observation will guide you to then identify the five things you can do to counter the behavior patterns that undermine your success. For example, if you find yourself wanting cake in the afternoon, counter it by having an apple first. Do you routinely spend more than you save? You can counter this habit by putting five percent of what you earn in a savings account each week. Finally, as you make a list of these five new action steps, practices or tasks, choose one that you can accomplish today. And then do it with great love.

Emotional Support Tip
As you begin this healing and transformative journey, I invite you to bring great patience and compassion to yourself – knowing that it’s perfectly natural to have seemingly disparate emotions such as doubt, sadness, excitement, and hope arise simultaneously. Now is the time to practice a new level of kindness and love toward yourself.



I am afraid to be happy.. I am always sick.. Finances never improve/.People do not love me as much as I do them..I am lonely.

Things I adore a no fuss new computer

I am grateful for a new bedspread and linens getting low

Today's flowers -most peaceful