Confirming oneself

   The positive feedback you may be receiving from others for your accomplishments could make you feel validated today, for just knowing that others value what you do might feed into your sense of self-worth. While being acknowledged for your achievements is wonderful, you may wish to remind yourself that, as with anything in life, true validation comes only from within yourself. Perhaps you can ask yourself what you get from the praise you receive from others that you should be able to give to yourself. Instead of having others confirm your feelings about yourself today, you may want to look at everything you do as having a positive impact on the world. Seen in this way, you are always contributing to making others' lives better.

Success is born from our inner feelings of importance. When we recognize that all we do is worthwhile, the praise we get from others is an additional bonus to our work rather than the defining aspect of it. If we view ourselves from this perspective, we begin to see that our accomplishments are actually a by-product of living in an interconnected world and that the feedback we get from others is not necessary to our definition of who we are. Feeling good about ourselves will do more for us than looking outside of ourselves. Looking within for confirmation of your influence on others today will bring you closer to realizing that your triumphs are an ever-present part of this world.

I do not need a lot of praise. I am my own critic and voice but still on days when I'm a little down , I love to hear the words "thank You " or I'm sorry"  or sometimes "Let me help."